Le vite degli altri: perche' non giudichiamo noi stessi con i parametri che usiamo per le persone attorno a noi

"Many of our errors, the researchers found, stem from a basic mismatch between how we analyze ourselves and how we analyze others. When it comes to ourselves, we employ a fine-grained, highly contextualized level of detail.

When we think about others, however, we operate at a much higher, more generalized and abstract level. For instance, when answering the same question about ourselves or others — how attractive are you? — we use very different cues. 

For our own appearance, we think about how our hair is looking that morning, whether we got enough sleep, how well that shirt matches our complexion. For that of others, we form a surface judgment based on overall gist. 

So, there are two mismatches: we aren’t quite sure how others are seeing us, and we are incorrectly judging how they see themselves".


Maria Konnikova, The confidence game.